our solutions for relapse
Stress is listed as the number one reason for relapse in many studies.
This stress can be from coming home to the life you took a step back from while attending your rehab facility and the weight of the impacts you had created in relationships, career, and lifestyle. It can also be created from the new realizations you have made of yourself and the expectations you hold of your "new self".
We see this stress as a motivator, as the compass that guides us in our recovery process. You will be asked in your consultations "what is not as it should be in your life right now"? If the answer to that question is something that is within our power to change we will concentrate time and effort into taking steps to right these aspects. If it is something that is out of our control we will process you through these problems and learn to live along side of them. Along with the coaching and group sessions clients will be helped to form personal routines proven to elevate stress. This will vary person to person and can include mindfulness practices, physical fitness routines or ways of creative expression
"I'm good to go", "I've got this under control", "I've done my work so I deserve a little fun."
These are terms we hear a lot from addicts in recovery. We at Intentions believe in creating personalized goals in our relationship with substances and complacency can sneak up on you whether it is total abstinence you seek or a healthy relationship.
We will help you create clear goals for yourself and what you want out of your recovery process and help you hold ourselves accountable.
How we will do that is by tracking ourselves week to week, how we re feeling, what has come up for us around use and triggers and what you plan to do moving forward. This will be done both through group and one on one sessions. Accountability is a corner stone is our process and will be looked at weekly.
PEOPLE, PLACES & THINGS
Old drinking buddies, the house you used to score from, or your favorite bar.
These things become ingrained in us as habits and routines that are a big part of our addiction. It is not only the substance that we become addicted to it is the rituals of using that become a part of us.
We will look deeply into these aspects, find your rituals, find the people that may or may not serve you in recovery and explore what has to be done to replace them.
Sometimes its not as easy as just shutting people out of our lives for some people that just isn't a possibility.
We will look at what can be done to remove these risks completely if possible, and if not create healthy boundaries with these people, places, things.
"I'll never get this", "I'm a failure", "I'm powerless", "I could get clean if everyone didn't hate, or use or hurt me"
Self pity or Victim-hood is a place we all go into from time to time, but when we live in this place and see the world through this lens it becomes viral, the world starts to feel like a scary place, it feels as if everyone/everything is out to get us.
Although self pity is listed as number for on the top five reason for relapse we see this is the number one avenue to success. We will create empowerment, accountability and connection to take back our power. We will ask the question "who's fault is it?" If it is my fault I am powerful, I have the power to change things, I have the power to fix things, if it isn't my fault, if it is someone else's, or the world or my substance of choice, I am powerless, I become the victim, life happens to me. If you want to believe that you are the victim of circumstance don't work with us. We will challenge you to find responsibility for the shit we created for ourselves and the inspiration to change it.
HUMILIATION & SHAME
"Look at the mess I made" "I'm a terrible person",
"I don't deserve to be happy or successful because of the pain I've caused."
Shame is an emotion that holds us down any way it possibly can. It keeps us from moving forward because we adopt a belief that we are not deserving of anything more than what we have created in addiction, we use it to punish ourselves, to perpetuate the cycle of unhealthy using to prove ourselves as bad or broken or diseased people.
Simply put we will find the golden line.
How is it that my time in active addiction is exactly what I needed for my life? How can I use my experience, my pain, my wasted time to create a better life for myself? For others? What was the purpose of my addiction? What is the purpose of my recovery?
Relentless pursuit of the golden line and a belief that everything was how it should be will help us to step out of this shame and into the purpose of our life moving forward.