Definitions and language often used around substance abuse and recovery have boxed people in to a single category: “The Addict”.
This term carries the stigma of a helpless, out of control, diseased person who will never have the internal control or sense of judgement to take control of their lives and gain their "power back" over substance, porn, sex, electronics.
Once the label of “addict” has been given, it becomes the primary defining feature of that human. They become an addict first, and a human second.
When addiction is understood in these terms, true recovery is simply not possible. Instead, you must learn to live with your ‘disease’ for the rest of your life and it will go on defining you.
Along with a growing community of psychologists and specialists—we challenge this debilitating paradigm.
It’s becoming clear that the root cause of an addiction isn’t likely to be a genetic disease, but a trauma (brain, emotional, life events). Professionals, like Johan Harri, have gone as far as to say that addiction simply seeds from the lack of connection with ones self and others.
This is why the most crucial first step of the
Intentions program is redefining “addiction”. We are all a human first, at various stages in the cycle of addiction. We don’t believe in the label “addict”, but understand that a person is in a temporary phase of “active addiction”. Once the root cause of ‘active addiction’ is determined—that person can evolve past it, and move onto more inspiring and transformative goals in their lives.
WE CHALLENGE THE DEBILITATING PARADIGM
PERSONALIZED MEASUREMENTS OF SUCCESS
We do not shame our brothers and sisters around recovery and sobriety. We come around them when they are struggling.
We believe every day sober is a good day, no matter how many consecutive days one may have. Our measurement of success is not "Clean Time", success comes from the individual and what they want for themselves. Our definition of success expands into all aspects of life. We will track these goals, reward and honor each other, and hold each other in our own choices of what we feel is "successful recovery".
EQUAL TIME TO SHARE IN GROUP
Anonymous meetings are amazing, these program have helped millions of people in addiction. But have you ever sat through a meeting, listened to the twelve steps, listened to the twelve agreements, and then been given a talking point or two that does not relate to what you are experiencing/needing for yourself at this point in time?
These talking points are given out by the chair who then asks 4 or 5 people to share their experiences on these points. Talking time is often given to the "old timers" who’s experiences are seen as more valid simply because they are the ones with the most "clean time". Yet they may not know at all what others are going through, or what they need.
The experience can feel alienating and wasteful. It doesn't take long before people stop attending these meetings because they aren’t getting the support that they need.
Our format is designed to give everyone equal time, to share what is up for them in that moment. Critical support means that each group member is given the support that they need to move forward with their own "Personal Agreements" (Not the agreements that are defined and set forth by the program), and which "Step is next for them" in their personal goals (not what step is formatted for them).